“Are you back to work yet?” I can’t tell you how many post-baby conversations have included this sentence. Just last night I was asked this same question, yet again. What do you mean go BACK to work? What do you think I’ve been doing all these months with my baby. Relaxing? Because I can you that’s definitely not a word in my vocabulary anymore.
Years ago it was expected that the mom stay at home to take care of her children. Today, these moms are the minority. Stay-at-moms don’t always get the recognition they deserve. While I believe it each family’s decision, I don’t think it should be frowned upon. I absolutely love the fact that I chose to stay home with my son. It ensures that he gets love and attention he craves and needs. I can’t imagine someone else feeding him, changing him, and enjoying his baby giggles all day, while I sat in an office somewhere typing away at some mundane job. Yes, I get frustrated some days that I don’t get a break. And yes, many days I don’t get to shower or eat. However, even on these hard days, I wouldn’t trade my gig for any corporate job in the world.
I understand some moms can’t afford to stay home and must seek out daycare providers. This is totally understandable. I am fortunate enough to be able to stay at home, while my husband works. He works very hard so I can raise our son and be with him everyday. Things might be a little tighter than it could be, but it’s so worth it. Some days I wonder why I spent so much money on my undergraduate and master’s degrees. Then I remember all the life skills I learned throughout my education process and how they are helping me be a great mother. Education is important to me, and someday in the future it will be used again.
While I get that people in this day and age expect that you work, they should realize that being a stay-at-home mom is work! It’s very hard work. It’s 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with no pay. Your rewards are your children’s smiles and happiness. I believe these rewards trump any amount of money one could make at a corporate job. I just wish others would realize the dedication stay-at-home moms put in on a daily basis. It is the hardest job I have ever had, yet it is the most rewarding. Money is important, but raising a good human being is more important. That is my job and I am proud of it!